There is no magic recipe to make successful and good humans. There are several factors involved in building kids who can sustain and build their life even if they face repeated failures. Learning to build new skills is a new skill in itself which can be developed through intentional daily activities.
Soft skills are more important than we can think, and this will help our kids grow into individuals with great qualities irrespective of how rich or poor they are. Rapid change of skill set requirements is the honest truth today. To be even more honest, not even 35% of the professionals find the right job as per their strengths. Some jobs will disappear, and the most irrelevant skills today can become relevant tomorrow, and vice versa. It is necessary to push kids beyond their comfort zone and give them a learning mentality.
Here are some top skills you would like to imbibe in your children to not only make them employable or business-oriented, but also good humans.
1. Importance of Routine
Children usually find it hard to stay focussed and bring in self-control. It is necessary for them to thrive on schedules, routines that make them feel more equipped while giving them a feeling of security. To do this, have a conversation with your child and try to understand how they want to make their present day different. What do they expect and how will they organize their day to achieve them. It can be as simple as going to play. So, children could plan on what they will wear, which shoes to use and if its socks is cleaned already, and so on. In a world full of distractions, it is necessary to make them capable to do what they want.
This involves focus and self-control while also having flexibility in thinking.
2. Developing Empathy
Being empathetic and understanding perspective can take an individual a longer road of success while also returning back to the community. Thinking about another individual's perspective doesn't come naturally to most children, especially children with no siblings. But! It can be developed over time. Empathy and how others think & feel plays a major role. It is necessary to understand other's intentions as well or else people tend to take advantage of such nature. Bringing in a balance in the personal and professional life will help them be less likely to end up in conflicts.
For instance, if your child ever comes up with an issue where he/she has fought with a friend, it is necessary to make them understand and think from the friend's perspective vs what actually happened. Encourage them to view the issue from a neutral point of view and then explain if it is ok to feel sad or angry. This not only helps in perspective understanding, but also in problem solving.
Teaching children a particular language which is a common medium for many people is a must. This ensures they are well-versed and ready to learn new languages as they grow. Paying to body language is also important as it can add a high-touch personal interaction skill while building healthy social bonds. Help them read social cues and observe the people and situations around before communicating something.
Very small distractions like seeing a phone while talking, or responding to people while looking at your laptops (as a parent) will inculcate the same habits in them as well. Your body language and way of speaking as a parent influences a kid beyond imagination. It is also a skill teachers and employers feel that are most lacking today. If we don't teach children these skills at a young age, most of them will lack in positive social conversation.
This life skill is an art of not just speaking but feeling what people want to convey. Making connections, irrespective of being extrovert or introvert will drive them to the core of their creativity and make them a well-informed people's person.
4. Decision Making
We live in a complex world with people from different walks of life. The requirement to have critical thinking is immense. It is necessary to analyse information and observe the patterns people usually have. This can be developed using rich, open-ended play which can start with kids playing, either alone or with friends. Pretending to be firefighters or building structures using lego, playing board or physical games, playing tag or hide-and-go-seek, and so on, are some examples. It is ok to formulate hypotheses, bring in new ideas, make new mistakes, and find good solutions while building critical thinking.
Education, career, life partners - there are some very important decisions that our children need to be prepared for. This doesn't come easy all of a sudden. Children need regular practise inorder to make the right decisions when the actual time comes. Teach them very simple ways of how one can make wise decisions.
Start by asking them to choose between 2 activities, 2 dresses, prioritizing themselves while among friends & colleagues, and so on. They will tend to understand the consequences of making each decision. Guide your children and help them differentiate the advantages and disadvantages before they decide!
5. Push For Growth
Resilience, engaged learning of habits and activities, performing high risk challenges mentally, and the ability to keep trying is required to be practised from a young age. Create an environment and encourage your child to try new things with reasonable risk, be it going to the nearest store, driving a cycle, participating in new activities they are unsure of, and so on.
By setting such goals and strategies, our children will be attuned and more prepared for the dynamic changing world. For personality development classes for kids, or English classes for kids, you can get in touch with us.